Homework from Proverbs 31:12 - Humble Attitude Over Duty

Homework from Wife's Biblical Submission Study:
Proverbs 31:12 - Humble Attitude Over Duty
Week #6, Lesson 2


Questions to ask self:


How's my husband's vigor, is it depleting or depleted?

Does he enjoy coming home?

Are my children obedient and respectful (not perfect), but practicing honoring me and my husband? (Not applicable to me as of the moment.soon in God's time)

Do I spend the hours necessary every day training my children in the love and admonition of the Lord?


Is my house in order? Maybe not perfect, but at least picked up?

Did I include a love note in my husband's lunch?


Was I up and ready to serve him when he awoke?
(sadly, no. it's not a reason that he prepares for work at 2am and sometimes earlier)

Do I take every opportunity I have to teach my children, not only with words, but through my actions, how to honor and respect my husband? (again, can't answer this at this time. soon when God thinks it's perfect time to have. we want to have kids.....yet HE knows when, only HIM knows the perfect time.


Is my husband satisfied with my wife and motherhood?

Has he made request I refuse to honor, not because he's asked me to sin, but only because I think his requests are unnecessary or unreasonable?

Proverbs 31:12 - Humble Attitude Over Duty

She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life."
~ Proverbs 31:12


good adj. ~ 1) morally excellent; virtuous; righteous; pious; 2) of high quality; excellent; 3) well-behaved; 4) kind, friendly; agreeable; pleasant; 5) honorable or worthy; 6) financially sound or safe; 7) genuine, not counterfeit; 8) reliable; dependable; responsible; 9) healthful; beneficial; 10) not spoiled or tainted; 11) cheerful; optimistic; amiable; 12) free of distress or pain; comfortable

harm n. ~ 1) physical injury or mental damage; hurt; 2.moral injury; evil; wrong
my Father reminds me by the power of His Holy Spirit:



Matthew 11:28-30 (The Message)
"Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you'll recover your life. I'll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won't lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you'll learn to live freely and lightly."


"I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world."
~ John 16:33

"I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world."

MY GRACIOUS MOMENT WITH MY LOVING GOD

I realized the more I long to do good to my husband, the more I fail.
The more I hurt him without consciously knowing.
Somehow, God wants me not only to repent from my shortcomings but more to draw to HIM closely amidst my countless failures.

With so many things that I may want to do to make my husband happy and loved, I am still reminded of the most beautiful reason I've ever known in my life, in my journey....and that is JESUS, HIS PRECIOUS BLOOD gives beauty to all the good things we desire to pursue in this journey called LIFE.

Have a Beautiful Saturday Everyone!!

Unforced rhythms of grace

"Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion?
Come to me. Get away with me and you'll recover your life.
I'll show you how to take a real rest.
Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it.
Learn the unforced rhythms of grace.
I won't lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you.
Keep company with me and you'll learn to live freely and lightly."

Matthew 11:28-30
The Message Version

Isn't God so sweet?

Daily Message for Married Couple

Last Wednesday, Jan. 21st, I asked husband to buy me a desktop calendar organizer,
to my surprise he also bought one box of quotations and messages for marriage.

With that, we randomly pick one card each in a day. We started yesterday, Jan 25th, Sunday. Here are the messages!!

Husband's card:

"That quiet mutual gaze of a trusting husband and wife is like the first moment of rest or refuge from a great weariness or a great danger."
George Eliot




Wifey's card:

"You can never be happily married to another until you get a divorce from yourself. Successful marriage demands a certain death to self."
Jerry McCant




Our Gracious Moments With God.

We took time sharing our hearts and how we perceive the message.
For me, God is calling me to have a pure and genuine trust towards my husband and a firm trust.

On the card, I picked, we believe God is always reminding us to leave our single life or our former way of life and have a new mind and heart towards life now that we are married.

We continue to do this inspiring activity along with our habit of 6pm prayer time together everyday.

Have a Blessed Week Everyone,
Bon & Jeff Galicia
Bahay BJ ~A Home of Love~

God's Perfect Love

Perfect Love
by Max Lucado

Isn’t it good to know that even when we don’t love with a perfect love, he does?
God always nourishes what is right. He always applauds what is right.
He has never done wrong, led one person to do wrong, or rejoiced when anyone did wrong. For he is love, and love “does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth” (1 Cor. 13:6 NASB).

God passes the test of 1 Corinthians 13:6. Well, he should; he drafted it.

So where does this leave us? Perhaps with a trio of reminders.
When it comes to love:

Be careful.

Until love is stirred, let God’s love be enough for you.
There are seasons when God allows us to feel the frailty of human love
so we’ll appreciate the strength of his love. Didn’t he do this with
David? Saul turned on him. Michal, his wife, betrayed him. Jonathan
and Samuel were David’s friends, but they couldn’t follow him into
the wilderness. Betrayal and circumstances left David alone.
Alone with God. And, as David discovered, God was enough.
David wrote these words in a desert:
“Because your love is better than life, my lips will glorify you.…
My soul will be satisfied as with the richest of foods” (Ps. 63:3, 5 NIV).

Be prayerful.

What if it’s too late? Specifically, what if you’re married to someone you don’t love—or who doesn’t love you? Many choose to leave.
That may be the step you take. But if it is, take at least a thousand others first. And bathe every one of those steps in prayer.
Love is a fruit of the Spirit.
Ask God to help you love as he loves.
“God has given us the Holy Spirit, who fills our hearts with his love”
(Rom. 5:5 CEV).
Ask everyone you know to pray for you. Your friends. Your family.
Your church leaders. Get your name on every prayer list available.
And, most of all, pray for and, if possible, with your spouse.
Ask the same God who raised the dead to resurrect the embers of
your love.

Be grateful.

Be grateful for those who love you. Be grateful for those who have
encouraged you to do what is right and applauded when you did.
Do you have people like that in your world? If so, you are doubly
blessed. Be grateful for them. And be grateful for your Father in
heaven.

Merry Christ-mas Everyone!!

Jesus is the very reason of this holiday, let’s give him our praises and thanksgiving as we celebrate Christmas and face a new year of 2009 filled with Hope, Faith, and Love.

Let’s lavish our Savior with our love, worship and faith.

May the Holidays fill our hearts and days with HIS presence and Love.

Let’s share HIS LOVE with less fortunate children or family, who are also close to our God’s heart.




Love,
Bon and Jeff Galicia
Bahay BJ ~A Home of Love ~

Proverbs 31:11 - Beautiful Truth is Beautiful Trust

Pictured above is a unique flower called, "Beautiful Truth". It was discovered in South Korea by Song Kihun (the grower) who named this rare beauty after his beloved daughter. Although extremely delicate in appearance, with it's strap-like petals that are only a 1/4" thick, it is a very hardy flower that is also very well behaved...unlike others of it's species. This is one of the distinct qualities that make this exceptionally beautiful flower so treasured by it's gardener's!


Sunny shared : "I found it very interesting that the petals looked like delicate ribs that wrap around the "heart" of the flower where the sweet nectar is. This little flower peaked my interest enough that I began looking up it's history, how it grows, where it grows and if it'll grow in my garden. In my research, I found it is much like a Biblically submissive woman - beautifully delicate in appearance, but grows very strong and hardy and is well behaved, which blesses her Gardener."


A Biblically submissive wife, is like this Beautiful Truth flower.
* She's delicate in appearance, but is very hardy and strong.
* She grows without being overbearing by overtaking the other flowers in the garden (like others of her kind) -
* she is "well behaved", she practices self-control. (Titus 2:3-5)
* She's shaped by her Gardener and grows in the fashion He chooses.
* She doesn't mind being pruned, though it is painful, causing her to "bleed", because she trusts that her Gardener is pruning her to help her grow more fragrant and vibrant with larger flowers.
The pruning actually makes her stronger (Hebrews 12:11). She doesn't mind looking "ugly" from time to time because her full trust is in her Gardener - not in herself or others.
* She's more concerned with the growth that's happening in the secret places no one else but her Gardener can see.

And this gives her peace, especially when the storms come and beat down on her, or during the droughts when the sun threatens to dry up all she has. During storms our droughts, her roots grow deeper and deeper into the soil, as she firmly embeds herself into her strong Foundation - the Lord Jesus Christ, for He alone is her Refuge.

No wonder the heart of a husband who's blessed with this kind of wife has full trust in her and has no lack of gain.

* He trusts her because he knows she will not gossip about him to others (1 Timothy 5:13),
* his interests are hers, his desires come before hers, and his welfare is her joy (Ephesians 5:24, Philipians 2:3-4).
* She does not squander his money, nor look upon others with envy.
* She is fully satisfied in the LORD. She is grateful and humbled that God has been mindful of her and provides for her every need and even graces her with plenty (Ruth 2:10).

Though her husband may or may not strive to be a man who loves her as Christ loves the Church, her husband does not worry, because he knows her full trust and joy is in Jesus Christ, not in him or any other person. Therefore he is free to know Christ (if he's not saved), and one day, endeavor to love her as Christ commanded all husbands.

Scripture HE wants to PLANT in my heart as young wife and woman (",)

A wife who trust HIM will not be shaken by Life's Circumstances

"I have set the LORD always before me.Because he is at my right hand,
I will not be shaken.
Therefore my heart is glad and my tongue rejoices; my body also will rest secure"
-Psalm 16:8-9 (NIV)

God does all things for her good, by conforming her daily into the image of His Son, Jesus Christ

"And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.
For God knew his people in advance, and he chose them to become like his Son, so that his Son would be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters."
-Romans 8:28-29- (NLT)

She is well esteemed because she allows her good conduct to prove her work done in the meekness of wisdom

"Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom." James 3:13(NIV)

She is clothe with UNFADING BEAUTY within

"You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."
-1 Peter 3:4- (NLT)


He is well aware that he is her second love and Christ her first.
*She is firmly established in her Savior alone and therefore is not easily shaken by circumstances around her, for her hope is in the LORD, not in the comforts of this life (Psalm 16:8-9).

*She is fully aware that her Father God is good, sovereign and trustworthy and does all things for her good, by conforming her daily into the image of His Son, Jesus Christ (Romans 8:28-29).

*She makes her mark in this world and many take notice of her. Not because she is the most beautiful, not because she is the loudest, proudest or strongest. No, she is well esteemed because she allows her good conduct to prove her work done in the meekness of wisdom (James 3:13) with gentleness and a quiet spirit, faithfully doing good without fear of anyone or anything except God her Father (1 Peter 3:4 & 6).

And yes, even others of her kind (other women) take notice of her, for her peaceful joy and quiet confidence in Christ, speaks louder than any words that can ever come from her lips.

MY GRACIOUS MOMENT WITH MY BEAUTIFUL SAVIOR, MY BEAUTIFUL JESUS!! ^_^

I am encouraged how God continuously prune me for my own good!
He sees me beautifully even if at times I failed to see the beauty HE is designing within me in the midst of pruning stages.

I believe this first year of marriage is a pruning moment for me as a young wife, learning many things. As HE asked me to surrender to HIS good will. One of the major things HE is pruning me:
"Submit to your husband as the church submit to Christ"

It is a call for me to HUMILITY. Reminding me to follow the steps of Jesus, which are the steps of Humility exemplified in His Great Love for the Father. Great that Jesus was willing to submit, trust, and surrender without questions.

My husband loves to garden. It's true that a gardener knows what plants need more sun, less water, etc. God as my Gardener indeed knows what needs to be pruned within me for me to be beautiful and biblical submissive wife for His glory! and for my husband to be blessed all his life because of my reverence and intimate walk with God.