Proverbs 31:10 More Precious Than Jewels

An excellent wife is very hard to find. Her rare, inner beauty is so exquisite, that she alone (on earth) can have the greatest influence on her husband. The gentle and quiet spirit (biblical submission) of an excellent wife also captures the heart of the Lord God Almighty who not only deems her submissiveness as her greatest strength, but finds her inner strength, most precious in His sight (1 Peter 3:1-6).


BEAUTIFUL WIFE:

"The same goes for you wives. Be good wives to your husbands, responsive to their needs." 1 Peter 3:1 (The Message)


"In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over 2 by observing your pure and reverent lives."
1 Peter 3: 1 (NLT)

* A Beautiful and Excellent Wife in the sight of God is:
- A good wife who is responsive to her husband's need
- A wife who live a Godly, Pure, Reverent, and Respectful Life
- A wife who submit to his husband's authority.

Indeed God's standard is way way different than human.


1 Corinthians 13 goes into much detail of God's agape love, which through Christ we find is first and foremost, submissive to the will of the Father with great love and humility (Philippians 2:5-8). No wonder God finds this rare quality in a wife so precious in His sight. She (a Biblically submissive wife) is the best paradigm of Christ's love and submission to God the Father (1 Corinthians 11:3).



And we know as daughters' of the Most High God, there is no human being who's ever lived that is more precious in God's sight, than His one and only Son, Jesus Christ, our Lord."

"Just imagine sisters this great gift God has set before us! Our gracious Lord and God has given us the privilege to exemplify the most perfect expression of love ever known to mankind - Jesus Christ! What is your response?"
~What a privilege that is, that I know I don't deserve~
~A gift I don't get the chance to exemplify all the time, but in God's leading am repenting each and everyday He unfolds into my life as a young and precious wife!~

Amazing , amazing, amazing God!! Worthy of all praises!!


As Scripture says, Jesus was equal with God (He was perfect, pure and without sin), but did not consider equality with God something to be grasped or used the aspects of His deity to work His will (as a man), but submitted to the will of the Father in all things.

As daughters of God, and co-heirs with Christ, we have the same opportunity set before us. We are "equal" with our husbands in that we have the same value in God's eyes and we are equal sinners. But only wives have the incredible opportunity to model Christ's relationship to God by willingly and lovingly submitting to her husband who is equal to her because they are both sinners, and both fall short of God's glory.


Homework: (Sister Sunny, this is indeed a helpful part of this study, as God purify us more for our own good and for His good purposes and Glory!!)

Based on your memorization of Psalm 139:23 - 24 & Psalm 19:14 from last week, make a two column list:


Column 1 - all the sins God revealed to you that you must crucify
Column 2- Scripture verses to help you when tempted with each sin you listed


*Sins That I must Crucify and Work On This Week in God's Help and Gentle leading.

* I have this bad habit of quarelling my husband when am hurt though at times, I really don't realize that I end up quarelling him instead of talking about my hurt feelings.

* Ungodly habit of counting past sins, mistakes, and hurt.


These are really not glorifying to My King.

His voice so loud in my heart:

" Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."


1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV)



....it keeps no record of wrongs"
....Doesn't keep score of the sins of others, (1 Cor. 13:5-The Message Version)


"Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins."
1 Peter 4:8 (NIV)

....love cover a multitude of sins


* Fight sin of unforgiveness and counting past mistakes *

I have to keep God's word in my heart and actions, 1 Peter 4:8 and 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 for me not to indulge with the past esp those pertain to shortcomings....
, instead in God's grace, I'll have a forgiving and loving heart.

That God's love cover a multitude of sins. that my love for my husband cover all his imperfections and past shortcomings.


* Fight the sin of quarelling *

1 Corinthians 13:4-5, God says that LOVE is kind and patient, it is not irritable!!
It does not easily angered...


I lift up my desire to repent over those sins to God who is mighty and loving to help me and lead me to genuine repentance to becoming a genuinely loving wife who never quarell, who lovingly forgive......


All PRAISES to GOD!!!


This is my Gracious Moment with The Lord this Tuesday......A little challenging, am at home trying to rest to subside my fever, cold, cough.


I lift up this day for God's Glory along with Bahay BJ's situations.


Loving God.........

Difference Between Submission and Obedience

Difference Between Submission and Obedience

submit (v): 1) to give over or yield to the power or authority of another; 2) to present for the approval, consideration, or decision of another or others: to submit a plan; to submit an application;

obey (v): 1) to comply with or follow the commands, restrictions, wishes, or instructions of; 2) to comply with or follow (a command, restriction, wish, instruction, etc.).

As you can see, by definition, submission is a far greater thing than obedience.

Submission requires love, respect and a wiling yield to another. Obedience on the other hand doesn't require any personal relationship between the one giving the "command" and the one obeying the command.

My Gracious Moment:

I often see myself as an obedient wife rather of a submissive one.
I believe, I have to repent in many areas being a wife!!

I can say I am better now compare with the first few months of marriage which I had the big transition to face.

These days in God's help & guidance, I am being mindful of being a homemaker, things that really concerns home. It become a habit to clean the house , do chores when I get home from work.

I desire to be a full time wife, homemaker, and future mom.

Six Random Things About Me

I have been tagged by sweet and thoughtful Ernestine of Keeping the Home



Here are the rules of the tag:

Link to the person who tagged you.
Post the rules on your blog.
Write 6 random things about yourself.
Tag 6 people at the end of the post and link to them.
Let each person know that you have tagged them and leave a comment on their blog.
Let the tagger know when your entry is up.

Six Random Things About Me:

1. I am a newly married woman to a God fearing simple gentleman, who loves music, gardening/ environment, mountains, animals.

2. I have come to know God intimately and understands Jesus on the Cross and His Precious Blood when I was 17 years old in the university. It was one of the greatest experience I've ever had in my life. Memorable, captivating, purifying. Cherished it so much.

3.I used to be a very busy young woman even when I was just in elementary days, I always do a lot of things, participate in every activities around me. So love to learn every good things I can. High School, University days were filled of jam-packed schedule. I enjoyed it, learned many things, known many people, & love them.

Yet, when I get married, God let me understand the importance of prioritization.
I slowly understand and take to heart that having a family, is my first ministry.

4. I have a new found love of homemaking even if am not full time to it.
Living with my husband made me start to love plants/ gardening, taking good care of the environment, to be mindful of stuff that concerns home, I start to appreciate dog/s, we have a cute puppy at home, which we have in our 3rd month wedding anniversary. We named him Jell (after our fave bus transport, LOL)

5. I work in a Marketing Department of the company where I work with different nationals. When we have our meeting, I usually joke myself, am I in the United Nations? (LOL)

I am grateful to have this opportunity to work with different nationalities, it broaden my knowledge, and help me learn as much as I can.

6. I love coloring, just like a Barbie or cartoon coloring books. So fun and light.
Husband and I did it a few days ago in our 9th month wedding anniversary.


Can I add one more important thing in my heart?

I dream to have a family whose main desire is to make our lives a Worship to the King.

I dream that husband and I will be part of a mission team, whose main goal is to established a church who will deeply fall in love with God more than anything else.

That dream, remain so alive in my heart.....after every tribulations I may face.

I believe God himself created that dream in my heart so sweetly.

Are you a strong woman or a woman of strength?

A strong woman works out every day to keep her body in shape...
But a woman of strength kneels in prayer to keep her soul in shape.

A strong woman isn't afraid of anything...
But a woman of strength shows courage in the midst of fear.

A strong woman won't let anyone get the best of her...
But a woman of strength gives her best to everyone.

A strong woman makes mistakes and avoids the same in the future...
A woman of strength realizes life's mistakes can also be God's blessings and capitalizes on them.

A strong woman walks surefootedly...
But a woman of strength knows God will catch her when she falls.

A strong woman wears the looks of confidence on her face...
But a woman of strength wears grace.

A strong woman has faith that she is strong enough for the journey...
But a woman of strength has faith that it is in the journey that she will become strong.

By Cathy Berry

My Gracious Moments with My Sweet and Loving God.

I took this from http://www.livingfortodaymom.com/
I came across with this, a few months ago and decided to read it again yesterday.

I know in my heart that I was too sad yesterday.
You know the feeling when you are being misjudged, and when the person who used to be my bestfriend did not extend compassion with the pain I've been through instead give such a hurting word and misjudgment?

I thought when I prayed and told God: maybe it's one of my allotment...my heart and faith is tested through these temporary emotional turbo.
I felt the sadness and pain, but I prayed...and decided to surrender them all to HIM.
For HE knows everything and He has always been the witness of my heart no matter what.

When everyone might fail to love me anymore, or trust or believe on me, I know and believe that my Lord will never fail to do so. For HIS love is the greatest among others that I may receive.

I would like to thank HIm as well for graciously allowing me to share my sadness with my husband who were there to comfort and listen.

Again, I told myself, I still have tons of reasons to thank for and express my gratefulness.

I have Jesus and I have my husband too.

Premio Dardos Award from Sunny

The Premio Dardos Award was graciously given to me by sweet sister Sunny of A Damsel No Longer In Distress

Premio Dardos means "prize darts" in Italian. This award is given to bloggers, in recognition of their cultural, ethical, literary, and personal values transmitted in the form of creative and original writings.

The rules of this award are:

1. Post award on my blog.
2. Link it to my precious sister Debra @ Clothed With Scarlet
3. Link to the original post HERE
4. Pass the award on to at least five people.

Thank you so much Sunny for appreciating my blog for its cultural, ethical, literary and personal values. It encourage me!!

I believe your thoughtfulness and sweetness comes from the Love of Christ.

You are a treasured sister.

I would like to pass on this award to:

Mariz of http://reflectionsbymariz.blogspot.com/
(Appreciate her writing about lifestyle of her own/family, and those in her environment, like posting about resto or establishment.

Kimi Harris of http://www.thenourishinggourmet.com/
(Appreciate her writing about her personal values on eating nourishing food along with its nourishing traditions.

Jean Chia of http://agreatpleasure.blogspot.com/
(Appreciate her creativity in sharing the art of serving food)

Angie of http://angie-alpha-e-omega.blogspot.com/
(Appreciate her being my close friend since university days, and her unique personal values)

Wendy of http://wenlopred.blogspot.com/
(Appreciate her personal values on relationship with God)

Sweet Award from Ernestine

Indeed, God is lavish with encouragement in so many ways.
It may be through people in your life that He extend those daily encouragement that comes in various ways.

I received a sweet comment from a dear sister Ernestine from my former post.
What an encouragement from a lovely and sweet daughter of God.

Then I visited this link: http://keeping-the-home.blogspot.com/2008/11/naomi-bonnie-rose-amanda-sunny.html

When I saw it: Wow!! Beautiful!!

More than the beautiful art Ernestine made, its her heart I appreciate the most. Her heart that wants to encourage and make someone smile, her thoughtfulness and sweetness.

Ernestine, Thank you so much!!

I wanted to make this award you gave as my Blog's Logo!!

A Modern Day Rib In Action

"A Biblically submissive wife living in a modern day world). And how this modern day "rib" protects her husband's:

Heart: his very life-blood, which is his vigor
Lungs: the air he breathes in and the air he breathes out

THE HEART
A man's heart yearns for his wife, her acceptance of him, her respect and most of all, her unwavering love and devotion. The world could hate your husband, his boss and/or his job could be horrible, his co-workers could spend all day mocking him and telling him how inept and stupid he is. But if he has a wife at home that sees him in truth, warts and all, yet loves him unconditionally with God's agape love, it's amazing how the world no longer has any affect on his vigor.

On the other hand, if the world loves your husband and he is praised and respected at work and in social circles, yet does not have the unconditional agape love, respect and support of his wife, he will grow weary, and begin to fail at everything. He will lose his vigor and sometimes, look to find another "rib" to replace the one that seems to be missing - causing a hole in his body, making his heart vulnerable to attack so that his heart can no longer function properly.

As women, we see our husbands as strong and not needing our acceptance. We feel like because we are the "weaker vessel" it is more important that we receive praise, acceptance and appreciation from our husbands without realizing that he needs ours to survive. Yes, his very life depends on his wife's protection. That's probably why widows live longer than widowers.


"While women who lose their husbands often speak of feeling abandoned or deserted, widowers tend to express the loss as one of "dismemberment," as if they had lost something that kept them organized and whole. The Harvard Bereavement Study, a landmark investigation of spousal loss that took place in the Boston area during the late 1960s, reported that widowers often equated the death of their wives with the loss of their primary source of protection, support, and comfort. This went to the very core of their overall sense of wellbeing. (emphasis added)

~The Encyclopedia of Death and Dying


One of the common habits we've grown accustomed to is nagging and quarreling with our husbands because we're sure we're right and they're wrong. While this may be true from time to time, nagging and quarreling is un-Biblical and contributes to "sucking the life" out of your husband, while feminizing him, causing him to "cave in". And with no protection from the rib, it's expected that a man's heart would cave in from all the pressures he faces daily. This is viewed as such a horrid thing in the sight of God that He has King Solomon mention it twice! (Proverbs 21:9 and 25:24).

THE LUNGS
A man depends on his lungs to breathe in air to provide oxygen to his heart, as well as exhaling air to remove carbon dioxide.

The rib was made to protect a man's lungs, so the man can be healthy and strong.

As wives, we are to protect the air our husbands breathe in and protect the air he breathes out. That means we protect our husbands atmosphere by prayerfully, truthfully and lovingly making our homes a place of restoration, peace and comfort for our husbands., we ought to intentionally set out each day As Biblically submissive wives to bless our husbands with our words and acts of kindness. (Applications will be included in tomorrow's post)


We also need to actively protect the air our husbands breathe out. Just like us, our husbands are not perfect and will from time to time say something unkind, harsh or inappropriate to us, our children or to others. In the case that he speaks unkindly, harshly or inappropriately to you, with gentleness and love, tell him he's hurt your feelings. But this conversation should only take place in private. If it happens in public, simply say,"I'm sorry what I've done/said frustrated you. Please forgive me. What I can I do to help you?" Then prayerfully consider when God will provide you the time to speak with him privately. If your husband did not speak to you inappropriately, but did hurt your feelings, consider if what he said was an actual sin or a personal offense. If it was the latter, prayerfully consider overlooking the offense rather than expecting your husband to always behave in a manner which is pleasing to you - as I'm sure this is a great burden none of us can bear...that's why we have Jesus!

Speaking privately to your husband after much prayer, is always recommended over disrespecting him by publicly reproving him.


My Gracious Moment With My Awesome Creator, My Only God...I love.

One of my weaknesses is: I failed to be a good homemaker.I failed to be the house manager that I should. I can't reason out that am working eight hours in a corporate world and travel almost four hours everyday to and from work /home.

It has been so true, without me noticing it at times that I become so quarrelsome, caring so much with my feelings being hurt, failing to see how ungodly it is towards God, and how hurting it is also to my husband. I knew, I have a long way to go in learning, relearning, and struggling and wanting to be a loving wife. Adding more and more love in my actions, thoughts, and heart each and everyday, that I always ask HIM.


What is so great is I believe my awesome God is giving me a new ray of HOPE that I will be the wife HE wants me to be, that in HIS Grace I will be better.

Still have many things to repent.Though I struggle, that I am imperfect wife with many flosses and weaknesses, that I failed in some areas of my role. Knowing HIS Word, His breath to me, His message to me as His Daughter, is already a privilege I know I don't deserve but have the honor to listen, and repent for HIS Glory.

Nothing changes in my heart for my Awesome God and Loving Father, when I was in my youth and in single ministry, I would always tell HIM how I wanted to make each day of my life to be a WORSHIP TO HIM. My desire until now that I'm married never changes, not even a bit. I still long to live a Life of Praise To My KING!!